We moved my mom in to MC 3 months ago, because it was our only option. My mom was at home and there was no care plan in place and my mom's home needs cleaning up and updates for safe living. She wouldn't let us do anything and was quite difficult. We just needed a break. We knew she would not be able to afford to stay anywhere for a long time. After a rough month of anger, my mom has now been stuck where she is for the last 2 months. Besides the current health crisis, since my mom moved in there's been reports of rampant fraud, abuse and neglect. Many of the employees have left and are filing the appropriate reports to authorities, and honestly I hope the place gets shut down. I'm not going to get into details but it's a bad scene..and my mom thankfully is very able bodied and doesn't rely on these people for much. She's kept her room packed up and ready to go since day 2.
I've been visiting her a couple times a week, and she is so happy to see me but is so sad I can't get her out. I've talked to several people who worked with her and they said she's gone through a lot of changes..her emotions have stabilized and she understands she needs help. With the right plan of support in place, I believe we can have a go at home. It would also be a massive financial savings for her. She just desperately wants to be in her home (yes, she knows what home is) to putter in her garden and be among her sentimental things and see her family. The anger has completely gone. Problem is, my siblings (whom she designated as POA and health agent) are and have been out of touch with mom's needs, desires and requirements, prefer to leave her where she is, thinking things will get "fixed" at this facility. They are not only willing to wait it out at $6k+ a month (and my mom's health and well-being at risk) they won't even consider letting her have a go at home with ample support while she is still able -bodied and mostly aware. I'm speechless frankly, and well aware they simply want to do what's easiest for them and keep their hands clean of mom.
So at this point my hands are tied and the only things I can do are see mom as often as possible to help ease her pain and sadness and keep a watchful eye and report what I see to the fraudulent director and the corporate office, as well as file a complaint with the state social services.
I do so deeply regret putting her there now, and realize I was at the end of my rope trying to do it myself. We just needed a break and a chance to get her house safe. I had no idea my siblings could be so cruel! Mom hasn't been easy..but this is just evil! And to waste her hard earned money to boot.
I appreciate any support from people going through the similar circumstances. I never dreamed it would come to this. :(