My aunt was appointed POA for my grandfather. We had it revoked and my grandfather signed the paperwork but for some odd reason she’s saying it’s not legal so my mother will be going to court with her about this. My question is how if any way possible can I get to see my grandfather? My aunt is not allowing me my mother or my grandmother to see him (he’s now in a nursing home). The only way my grandmother can see him is if they are present in the room with her but as far as for me and my mother we can not! I don’t know what she has told the staff but when we call to check on him or ask if we could go visit they told us we were not allowed. I have called APS to try and help but she basically said that until my aunt says we can go visit him we are not allowed up there. At this point we can’t afford an attorney so I’m just seeking advice on other options if anyone knows any.
The second POA may not be legal because your grandfather was not competent at the time it was signed or it was not appropriately witnessed. Has anyone at the NH or APS reviewed the second POA? If they are telling you it's not legal and giving you the reason why then I would probably accept their opinion.
As long as your aunt remains POA and it has been activated by your grandfather's cognitive decline, then the POA gets to determine who can see your grandfather. If you are upsetting your grandfather by trying to get another POA after he became incompetent or by telling him you want take him out of the NH, then your aunt has a very legitimate reason to deny you visitation.
Sorry for your pain and confusion dealing with the discord in your family. You may ask your aunt if you can accompany your grandmother (without your mother) during her next visit.
I don’t know what I have done to them but they have physically assaulted my 15yr old and called my youngest a racist slur so I just kept my distance and only went around while they weren’t there now the staff won’t even allow me to visit it really does break my heart