When my mom entered rehab one of the forms I had to sign as her POA was an arbitration agreement. At the time it seemed to make sense, avoiding legal expenses of a trial,etc. if a disagreement arises. She was only going to heal a slightly fractured femur, which didn't seem high risk (my ignorance). But now, after an incident occurred (she swallowed her partial denture and it wasn't diagnosed for over 2 days, causing her considerable discomfort/inability to swallow) I can't forget the incident. Mostly it was the lack of sincere interest on the part of the staff to find the denture - to them, it was probably in the trash or laundry..even days afterward. They were minimizing her discomfort, chalking it up to her being 92 and having swallowing issues is to be expected.
Long story short, the rehab finally had an x-ray taken, and the denture was found in her esophagus. They called 911 and she was taken to the local ER, where she experienced a traumatic removal (due to metal hooks on either end).
She also developed pneumonia (either from aspirating fluids before removal at rehab or during the removal).
She spent a week in hospital. During that time, I was concerned about the quality of her life after this incident, and the pain and suffering she endured would affect her mind and body forever. She had mild dementia going into this, and I could see it getting a stronger hold the more she endured.
Luckily, she did get well enough to be discharged, but my plan to take her home was not realistic. She required more professional care than I could ever give her.
She is now in a much better rehab facility, even though my trust has been damaged, I can see her getting better physically week by week, but her dementia continues to get worse. The staff advises me to keep her there long term, but it hasn't been decided yet.
Maybe it might be better if I forget the whole incident, and just focus on today and the progress mom has made to this date. Maybe not enough time has gone by (it happened early July). The irony is that Mom doesn't remember her pain and suffering...it's mainly me as her daughter that won't forget the insult and lack of genuine concern given her well-being.