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I wrote asking how I can cope with wishing my mom would die? Got 29 responses, but can only see 21 of them. I tried clicking "see all responses" that didn't work. Can't get past 21. And I gave more information earlier today about the details of my situation with my mother. Would really like to see the responses to the new info. Thanks.

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Try turning your device off and then on again to reboot. Who says your mother doesn't have dementia, by the way?
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My device is a lap top computer. But I'll try what you say to do. None of mom's doctors have said she is showing signs of dementia. She can follow a complicated discussion. She can converse just fine. She can make decisions just fine. Just not decisions I wish she would make. A lot of her decisions are tied up in making sure my brother is cared for financially and place to live when she dies. She worries about him and feels guilty about his problems I think. She is behaving and making same sort of decisions she has for years.
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My husband is an IT guy. Off and on is the first try fix for everything. Hope it helps.

So your mom is trying to leave your mentally challenged brother set? Has she looked into doing a Special Needs trust for him?
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I did turn off my computer and turn on again. I can see the last four posts now.
My mother has written up a special needs trust. The problem is that she has many more expense than her social security income. She is partly living on savings in the bank. Some of her expenses are paying car insurance and gas for brother. Letting him use her credit card. Buying steak for him to cook since he won't eat chicken or hotdogs anymore. And doesn't want hamburgers cause of all the recalls. I put a few hundred dollars in her bank account once in a while but I don't have a lot of extra money.
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Read my post to your other question. You have no responsibility to support your mother or brother. If she is of sound mind and has a lawyer, let her work it out for herself. You can't change someone else's codependency.
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