Anything to secure Mom if we visit family or a timeshare?

That doesn't sound like a safe situation for mom and certainly not a relaxing or enjoyable one for you. A change of scenery isn't always pleasant for the loved one and can be distressing and disorienting.

Can you consider respite care or hiring full time caregivers for the weekend? Are there other family that would come for a long weekend and give you a break?

Personally, that might be best unless you can each watch her 24/7.

I agree use this time for respite for you and your husband, it may be much needed and will refresh you. I don't think it will be relaxing or easy to take your mother with you. Respite care is available, paid for by Medicaid I do believe, or you can pay for it, a vacation for mom. From my understanding Alzheimer/dementia people really appreciate structure and "sameness."

This is pretty difficult! Good luck.

I agree with sunflo2's suggestion regarding respite care. We found a facility and use it monthly to give me a break. It will leave your mom in a safe situation, and you won't have to worry about her.

I agree. Find someone or place her while you are away. You'll enjoy your time away and get to finally relax.

Or, if Mom would enjoy the trip, hire a caregiver at your destination to cover the overnight. Use an agency to avoid trouble finding a reliable person. Or is there a friend or relative who would love the trip and could stand the loss of sleep? They might be willing to do it for free for a vacation, or at least a relatively small payment.

The two of you won't be able to enjoy your vacation if you're not getting enough sleep. You're no spring chickens.

I agree, respite care sounds like the best solution. Many places take in people for a limited time. It would be good for her, get her used to trying out the AL or NH.