Yesterday I finely took the step of looking into a retirement/assistant living for mom, course she went with me cause they had to do an a assessment on her, when we got there, she asked "whats this place?" I told her its called "Hopes Creek" she kinda chuckled and said never heard of it, we went in, beautiful place I might add, but as we are waiting in the waiting room she starts to see elderly ppl walking around, and then processed to ask me what is this a old folks home?? I said no it is a retirement living center. The case worker came out and asked if we would like to go see one of the one bedroom apts, I said yes.. So we proceeded to look at the apt, I asked mom what she thought, she said it was alright, why?? I said will you are wanting to go back home, and this is the best I can do as far as you having you own place and still be looked after.. OMG!!! S*** hit the fan!!! you are not putting me any where, I can take care of my self, I don't need someone to take care of me, I have my own home if you are wanting to get rid of me,,, one thing lead to another and me and her started to have words back and fourth, the case worker interjected, and said "Mrs. Why don't we go for a walk and just talk" so we did, and the whole time mom is stating I am not staying here I have my own home... so after the tour my mom sit in the waiting room which was by the doors, case worker was keeping an eye on her to see if she would be a flight risk, which we're in her office for about 30 mins going over paper work, mom made no attempt to go out the door, ( There were ppl coming and going) I looked at mom while I was in the office and and oh man you could see how pissed she was,, Anyways, we go to leave get in the car, and I see that mom is mad, so I ask her are you mad?? which I had to ask her twice, and she finely stated yes I am mad, I asked why? she said she was mad cause I was trying to put her somewhere when she had her own home, and please be reassured that I had stated to my mom that she needed someone to look after her to give her her meds, tell her when to eat, when to bath ect, and OMG!!! the fight was on all the way home, I was called a lair, ( which I might add I was called that in front of the case worker) I was making things up.. I haven't been taking care of her she has been taking care of herself, I know she thinks all of this because of the Alz/Dementia, but being a sole care giver, and to the point that I am so burned out, I let everything out, as far as how she was as a mother growing up, leaving me when I was 12 dropped off at my brothers, letting her know I was on my own when I was 14l, telling her how much that upset me that she was not around at the time in life I needed her the most, (knowing the whole time she was not going to remember any of this) I guess just some issues I had to get off my chest... She states to me she just wants to go home, take me to my own home. We get to my house where she now lives, and I have really had enough, ppl have told me that you will know when its time, and I told my self on the way home its time, I can no longer do this, So I get on the phone with her doctor let them know whats going on, watching at the same time to see if she will take off... Her doctor tells me of this place called Geri Pshyc.. where they evaluate them and twik there meds...So I take her there last night... she will be there for 7 to 14 days, and from there I can have her go to the place we first started out at,,, But here my mom was so unpleasant (and that is putting it nice), cursing me, calling me a liar, a bitch, and that I did not know what I was taking about. to this really pleasant person who is laughing and the Geri Pshyc is asking me whats wrong with her??? cause other than the alz/dementia she is in good health, So now I am asking my self.. Am I the crazy one???? Was I in the wrong to do this??? I just want to start my life.. being 49 raised 4 kids all grown, I just want to enjoy life with my husband... And I should point out my husband has been really supportive threw all this.... Any advice guys???