I don't want her to be sad, but she can't go back there. My mom has lung cancer and dementia. Was not safe at her home with my selfish and uncaring dad. Once she was put on hospice, the nurse and social worker figured it out real quick and said she could not stay there. I took fmla and moved her home with me just before Christmas. Had to lie to her to get her into the car, with much support and coaching by the social worker. She has been at my house more than 2 weeks now. The nurse, home health aid and social worker come by and are pleased. In her home she was laying day and night on a little loveseat, there were often ants all over the tables, food left out, general filth and my dad hollering at her that the house was clutttered. Yet she could barely get up. The home health aide would bang on the door and call phone over and over again for 15 mins before the door was answered and would walk in to this filthy house. I was driving 3 times a week after work to clean and bring food. But due to moms dementia, the meals I left in her refrigerator would go uneaten because she didn't open the fridge and my dad would not heat up the meals for her. I had been a nervous wreck and could not even concentrate at my job. Oh and my dad said he would refuse to answer the door for meals on wheels. Anyway, mom is here, I care for her, prepare meals, visit with her, watch tv etc. yet she often says she wants to go home. What do i say! I usually say oh maybe in a couple days and hope she forgets. I don't know if it's the regular meals and general care, but she is remembering certain things! Like that she wants to go back home! What do I say to her? I don't want her to be sad, but she can't go back there.