My father suffered strokes last year in August and ended up at a nursing home for 7 months til his money was getting low. It was all happening so fast and my brother was doing nothing to help, but of course he is POA. But I'm the one dealing with nursing home and everything else. I have been taking care of my dad since 3/31 until I can figure out what to do. I wanted him back in a nursing facility even though he wanted to come home, but I wanted to try to save the house if he does have to go back. He had always said it is in a trust but I can find no proof of that. It is not listed in his mail or the county's public records as such, only as in his name. I have lived here with him my whole life and have been administering his care almost three months on my own but it isn't near what he needs. I can hardly clean him or move him and he barely eats right. He is bedridden and can't walk. The house is cluttered, has mice, is dangerous, etc. But he wouldn't ever let me throw anything out. But I thought I saw that he could sign it to me since I have been an unpaid caregiver since he has been home, I have made sure bills got paid, etc. I thought I read that that was a condition in which I would be able to save the house, but I met with and elder law attorney who wasn't so optimistic. He said I would have to pay him 6000 for up to a year service to help me save only 50000 which doesn't include the house. Better than nothing but it would help since my brother needs a car. Lawyer said if dad spent down assets and went on medicaid, if he died medicaid would want reimbursement so that is likely when we would have to sell the house. He said the money we could save would accrue a medicaid penalty period so we would have to save less than half as we would need to spend down the rest during the penalty period. I did put in a change of address form in with dmv but it is not reflected on my license, just a separate card. I thought that might be a problem too. My name is not on the lease at the apartment I was staying at with my gf, but I was only really there a few months. I didn't know I would be getting into this big of a nightmare. This is getting too taxing on my mental health. I am very depressed, have no job or income, and am completely alone in caring for him. I have begged and pleaded with council on aging, proseniors, his primary care, and social workers for help to no real avail. I don't know what to do. I still haven't been able to get the wheelchair ramp put in. So when he has appointments I have to get him up and down steps in his wheelchair by myself with only the gatebelt for support to keep him in the chair. Hopefully I will hear good news on that front tomorrow. I can't keep doing this. Who do I call, what do I do, is there any way I can get him in a home and save the house so I can finally fix it up? Or should I pay the lawyer, take what I can get, and cut my losses? I wanted to call APS at one point but only as a measure of desperation, last resort. As a self neglect issue with him not wanting more help. It just sucks because Ohio nursing homes are so bad. He refused foot care during his stay so I had to take him after, he had had a bad toe infection for a while. I just didn't want anyone to think I was purposely putting him in this situation. I just don't know what to do. I am only 30, and have no money or place of my own if I lose that home. I'll need to be able to find work fast if I can even hope to save it. Any help would be appreciated, thanks.