My sister and I are co-power of attorney for my parents. I live around the corner from my folks and have been the hands on caregiver since 2008. My sister lives several hundred miles away but comes home every 6 weeks. For the most part, I have taken care of anything related to healthcare and my sister dealt with the finances.
My parents are doing well living at home and they want to continue to live at home with assistance. However, my sister recently stated it is unsafe for my parents to continue living at home. She wants to put them in a home and has actually taken measures to do so.
I do not want to contribute to a contentious situation --- I believe they have been safe and happy and I have been discussing with them what they want since my sister has taken action. How would I prove to my sister in objective terms that they are safe?
Also, she has a concern about finances and that's understandable. Is it more expensive to have caregivers in the home as opposed to assisted livingt? What is the best way to make a cost comparison.
My sister and I have always gotten along but issues dealing with my parents' care has really put a strain on our relationship. It makes me sad and it feels almost as though I'm choosing between having a sister or having parents.