Mom is 90. She lives alone but my sister and I handle her meals, pills, bills, outings, doctor visits and any other family social activities. Mom does have panic episodes, especially at night and I receive many calls in the evening telling me she feels abandoned. My sister and I each hear different stories from her about how the other is making her feel unwelcome or unwanted, none of which is true. Sister and I feel like we are being manipulated. Mom cannot afford full time assistance and even if she could she would resist it. We have had someone try to help us, but my mom puts this person off and tells her not to come. Geez, what can we do. I am in the process of trying to get VA homebound benefits, but I understand that the waiting time is ridiculous. Should we be ignoring mom's cries for attention and just do the best we can?