94 y.o. NPD with dementia doing her thing again, doing her best to be miserable and act out as I am waiting one more week for a vacation. And this is not just any vacation.... my son is getting married out of country and I absolutely can't wait to go! Earlier in the year, I had contemplated bringing Mom with me... before she had a stroke and heart attack 4 months ago. Since then things have steadily gone downhill, vision, hearing, forgetfulness and nasty attitude greatly increased.
I have been doing my utmost to please her and do things to make her time in which I am away as easy for her as possible. Had tentatively planned on an agency providing someone 9-5 M-F, and my daughter and her boyfriend would be here nighttime and on the weekends.
But now for the last few days, she repeatedly said she wants to go to the hospital. And I repeatedly discussed how she is not ill and cannot be admitted to the hospital. So this morning I am working in my home office, door closed in the back of the house (she was still not up for the day) and all of a sudden a loud banging on my front door!!!! It was EMS... OMG. So we all walked to Mom's bedroom; she denies having pressed the pendant emergency button.... she may have forgotten but knowing her, I really do not think so; she just wouldn't acknowledge it. Anyway, I explained to EMS what I thought was going on, that she was looking for a way to go to the hospital because I was going away in a week. They were nice... Mom was doing her weepy, not well thing and that was that.
So I go back to work because she is ignoring me and I really cannot take another argument at the beginning of the day. Meanwhile, she goes to fix herself coffee and a croissant and sat on the patio. I managed to get her AM meds to her. And much later she came inside and went to her room. This evening she came into the living room where I am working and wanted help with writing a card; and I said we need to wait for a little bit as I was still working. So she sat in the chair turned away from me, back facing me, and has not talked to me all day.
So now I do NOT want to put all of this onto my daughter to watch at home, so am back to looking at assisted living for respite for 2-3 weeks. And when I come back, will really have to look at whether she needs to stay. She does not have Medicaid, so will have to look at $$ closely because I cannot keep on going like this.
Anything, other ideas, suggestions would greatly be welcomed. ( I may just stay permanently on vacation and not come back... I wish :(