Just found this fabulous site tonight and this is my first post so I hope I don't ramble too much "coming out of the gate" and that hopefully my post is clear.
How can I disagree with my mother without making her so mean and hurtful? Tonight we were discussing what to give everyone for Christmas and she asked what my husband would want. I told her he wanted this new tool for work and she could only find it at this specialized store. She responded back saying ok I'll go to the hardware store and I'm sure Bob there will have one. When I told her the hardware store won't have it - she said I needed to quit argueing with her all the time.
Do I just suck it up and take it or what? I told her I was sorry she felt that way that I was just trying to help. She flatly said "NO you were trying to argue with me!!!" So I said I needed to go fix dinner and would call her tomorrow and she said "Oh NOW I made you upset with me, now if you would quit trying to argue with me you wouldn't be so mad"
So does being 72 give you a free pass at being rude regardless of the situation? If so then I don't know how to "behave" or even talk to my mom anymore. Here I am 49 years old frozen with fear because in 2 short weeks my family will be at my parents house (out of town) for a week over Christmas.