Mom is 92. She lived with me for about 10 years, (also my Dad before passing away) moved into her own senior apartment about 7 years ago, and is able to take care of herself. Functions very well for someone her age. Osteoporosis and arthritis and glaucoma are her physical problems, but she still does her own housework, laundry and cooking. I live the closest to her and am the only daughter. I retired 2 years ago and am 68. I have two brothers, one younger and one older. I lived 30 minutes away and closer brother lives 50 minutes away. Right now, I am staying with my Mom because she fell and broke her arm. She is doing so well, I am able to move out. She fell right in the midst of me selling my house, actually 8 days before the closing. I live alone and did most of the moving myself with the help of my son and his wife for the larger pieces of furniture. I have all my things in storage for now. I don't have a place to go at this time. She called me when she fell and I ran down to help her. She was in the emergency room overnight and the next day I brought her home with me to take care of her. I brought her to her doctor on Monday and then stayed at her apartment to take care of her, going home during the day to get my moving done and coming back to her place to sleep (on the love seat - ouch!) and take care of her thru the night. My brother and his wife came down during the day for 3 days so I could go back to finish my house. I had the closing on a Friday. I also had taken an offer from my previous job to cover for someone for 12 weeks maternity leave before the sale of my house and my Moms injury. I was to start the next Monday, but part time. I was going to bow out of the job offer since I had my hands full with my Mom, but she insisted I take the offer. I also have two little dogs that I am able to bring to work with me. The job started the next Monday. Our previous relationship has been, I've called my Mom every night to check on her, take her out once or twice a week for groceries and fun shopping trips, out to lunch. All of these things, her fall and me selling my place and so much physical work left me exhausted and damaging my back and shoulder, but I've managed to deal with it and I am feeling better. At this time, my Mom has healed enough and she doesn't need me living here anymore. I don't want to get her into trouble by being here longer than she needs me, so now I need to find a place to live. My dream has been to move to another state where my daughter and her family live. I would have my own place and have researched the places and narrowed them down to two I really like. My question is, can I move without feeling so guilty? I would expect my older brother and his wife to be able to take her shopping once a week or every two weeks. I have a nephew and his family who live about 20 minutes from her to maybe be the emergency contact. She knows this is my dream and even said I should do this, but I feel so guilty! I am thinking of talking to my older brother and his wife who live the closest if they would support my decision. I am running out of money and if I don't make the move now when I do have a little extra to get myself settled, then I will never do it. I can't see any future for me here and am so stressed and close to tears all the time feeling so depressed. My brothers are each very well off financially and I'm struggling. I have never talked about this to them, but need to explain the situation to see if I am being selfish. Everyone here at her apartment complex thinks I'm such a wonderful daughter and she loves hearing that...but I don't know how she would react to me moving and leaving her. I would be moving halfway across the country, so I would not be able to afford to come back for visits. I would have to have faith that the other members of my family would take over and be here for her. Any input would be so helpful in my struggle to deal with getting my life back in order.