It's getting harder to care for my husband who has dementia. Next Friday, he is scheduled to go for a physical which is required before he can go to a memory care unit. I feel guilty about making the decision to move him there, but it is a constant struggle trying to get him to take a bath, wash his hands, brush his teeth, blow his nose, dress, get up and out of bed, take his meds, etc. Lately he's been very gruff, uncooperative, sulking, non-verbal at times, and has tried to hit me and throw things at me.
But even if the doctor says that it is a good idea to get him in there, how do I explain it to my husband? Or don't I?
How do I get him there? Just take him by car, and more or less, drop him off?
I've heard that people have been told to NOT come to visit or talk with the patient for the first 3 weeks. Why? What if it is not a good fit?
Thanks for your insights.