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He has a little dementia at times. How hard is it to revoke a medical POA. I can have an attorney be present when my father signs. I asked him today who he wanted and he said me not my brother. It is my understanding as long as I new papers are drawn up and my father signs with a witness I can revoke it.

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Shakingdustoff you have replied to some of my earlier post and YES you and I are in the same boat!!!! I am getting sick over it! Yes, my brother believes I am freeloading and he has convinced the rest of my siblings that I am. I had one brother who was good to me but now he has joined them. My extended family knows the truth but do not necessarily want to get involved. Somehow my brother convinced the other siblings just before last Christmas to find a way to get my Dad out of the house so he could take over but it backfired because his doctor would not just admit him the hospital for no reason. It seems weird to me that my Dad started to become very sleepy and almost out of it on some days. That caused him to become weaker and I had to have him admitted to a hospital. They found some fluid on his lungs and after a few days in the hospital he was wide awake. I sometimes get weird thoughts that my siblings may have had something to do with why he was so sleepy. They are all acting so strange and lie constantly. My brother's crazy wife keeps telling my that I abused my father and that he is doing much better away from me (he is currently in a Physical Rehab Center). She has not been over in years but claims she called my Dad daily at 10 a.m. and she could here me screaming in the background at him. I am at work at that time so that is impossible but she still says "no you are not at work at that time" (she is nuts). I have not been able to find a copy of the Medical POA or the Financial POA or the copy of my father's trust. Not sure how to get it. I fear for my Dad and what is going to happen to him now that they all have power of him and me. I am going to try first to get medical POA as soon as possible. I should have done it weeks ago. I know my family does not want my Dad to get physically able to come back home and that is why he may not have been given the proper therapy. I have requested them to pick up the therapy. I also put in for FMLA so I can be at the Rehab Center when my siblings are there to make sure nothing fishy is going on. Two of them do not work and are there during the day when I am unable to be there....but that is going to change now.
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Just sending sympathy with the frustration you must be feeling. The stress created when one child does the care-giving and others hold POA - from ten years back, in our case, when nobody seems to have seriously imagined that my mother would ever need looking after or thought to mention to me that they were doing this - is just UNbelievable. If they'd deliberately set out to find a way of maximising family conflict they couldn't have made a better job it.

As it happens, I believe that my siblings' motives are sound enough, and they do their best; but all the same it would make my mind easier if financial POA could not be held by any person with an interest in the estate. The law seems content to assume that people are capable of acting disinterestedly; well, I expect that most people do their best to achieve that. But to act on the assumption that your average person can easily set aside all considerations of financial gain, convenience and all the other ethical lapses that flesh is heir to… it's bonkers. There's got to be a better way of doing this.
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It is my understanding I am third. My father wants me as first. I am the only that knows anything about my father's health and the only one that really cares. My brother has already made a few bad decisions about my Dad and I am very concerned.
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Your brother could not have turned it over to you unless you were on the document as the secondary POA. Only your father can name who is POA.
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Also, does anyone know if my father has set up a trust for his kids are all of the children able to see what is in the trust. My brother is the POA but I have never seen the trust.
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Thank you jeannegibbs. I am sure my Dad will understand and I plan to have an attorney involved. My brother may try and contest it. I asked him today to turn it over to me because I have been the only one in the family that has been involved in my father's care and he just laughed and said he has all the power. He would not even change a light bulb for my father and now he has control over his health...it is so crazy how that can happen.
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Yes, your father can revoke it as long as he can demonstrate that he understands what it means. Dementia itself is not a barrier IF he can understand the document.

Is your brother apt to contest this? If so, it is good to have an attorney involved.
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