There are varying opinions on this topic, but in general, although I will help my Mother, she has almost always never helped herself and expected so much, too much out of my now gone Dad, and now expects it out of me, as simple as a sandwich. Well, she can walk, talk, get around great, at 82, so make your own sandwich!! She initially got irritated with me for serving my husband a simple dinner one night and said he has two legs and two arms. Now she just waits for her food She even has her own tray, fault of mine and my husbands, but hey for safety and cleanliness we chose path. My point is it is not my responsibility for her happiness and I'm very tired of it and I'm going to do the best it takes for her healthcare and well being but I'm not going to listen to admonishment and criticism and when she gets that way, I'm going to my room for a little while. I owe her nothing but great care in terms of a healthy life. To say that you owe your parents happiness is ridiculousness.