Her two natural children have both passed away, so Its just me and my family. Mom (Ruth) married my Dad when I was 3 years old. His first wife (Bessie), my mother died at age 43 and since Dad was in the Navy, he remarried after only 4 months of grieving. Ruth has or had two children of her own but they have both passed away. Mom has had several slight strokes and now has Dementia, and has been living with me for a year and a half. She has given away her car, actually she mailed the Title to her Son in law ( daughter died 5 years ago) with the stipulation that he could have the car when she died. Well he came down on the bus and picked up the car within two weeks. In her mind, it wasn't supposed to happen that way. She had a mobile home that she lived in but there was so much work that needed to be done, and I live about 3 hours away, I just surrendered it to the Company that owned the Mobile home park. So... that takes care of her property. Mom has a burial plot that is already paid for. I am on Mom checking account, and have been for many years. Mom has a decent amount of Social Security each month and does not qualify for Medi Cal. We do not have any POA, however she has the Medical form that her Dr. requires but nothing other than that.. What, if anything, needs to be done? Eventually I will need to move her into a Facility or Board and Care Home. I need to go back to work and take care of my own finances.
Never mind the fact that we don't get along, and the family is suffering for it. I have a hard enough time trying to find someone to watch her while I work my three days a week. My caregiver has her own health issues and my husband is taking steps to helping his mother. Before I get so burned out that I cant function anymore, I would like some advice and suggestions.