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My grandmother is almost blind and since last year when she broke her femur she and my grandfather have a 24 hour caretaker living with them. Recently, she started to think that she is not in her flat. My mother and I speculate that she remembers that 30 years ago she was living in a big house which they had to sell then.
In about a month a neurologist will come to see her but I was wondering how best to respond to her in the meantime. At the moment we just reassure her that she is in her own flat.

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Oh wow, I am not alone. my Mom used to think we were at a hotel also and was so excited I had the room right across the hall. Poor Mom cant talk now nor understand but those theraputic lies worked wonders. As the Alz Association told me. "They Customer is Always Right" just make them happy and agree with everything, it worked for us. I remember her asking for my Dad who died many years ago and I would say he is on his way home from work.l My stomach was in a knot lying but I did was the support group told me to do and the daycare did it to everyone who had dementia. My Mom responded "oh okay." and it was over, wow it made her happy, so I was happy.
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Not knowing if she has Alz/dememtia, I will share what I do when S does not think he's at home... I tell him L (his son, who he loves dearly) has made arrangements for him and M to stay where they are until they can move back home... so far it has worked... he gets uspet if anyone tells him he IS home... I do not know where he thinks he should be, he is stage 6 Alz, and can not tell us....
Just use your imagination and try to come up with something that will help her anxiety about where she is... sometimes if they think, no matter how temporary, that they will be 'going' home soon, it helps.... let us know what you come up with... hugs
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