My 91 year old mom had two small strokes since last April. She lost her short term memory with the first and fine motor on the right with the second. But what bothers her the most is her loss of independence. She is now in an assisted living facility and she often wishes she were dead ( she also said this when I stayed with her for a few months before gaining into AL). How do you respond? I usually just say "I guess it is not your time" and try to divert the conversation. Any other suggestions? It makes me feel really bad to hear her say this. It makes me feel guilty for putting her in AL.