Our 13 year old daughter just got invited to participate in the Midwest Closed Tennis Tournament, which is by invitation only for the best of the best players. I am so proud of her, she wants to be a pro player and this is where recruiters go. It lasts for 5 days and is a few hours away so we will be far from home. I don’t know what to do with Doc. There’s one worthless sibling who refuses to help at all, and we have no one to even come check on him. What exactly is respite care and how much planning or advance notice do you need? I think this will be a huge ordeal for Doc as he has never spent the night anywhere and would not understand why or agree that he cannot stay home alone. He gets confused on his whereabouts even at home, is a major sundowner, needs assistance and reminders to take meds, eat, shower, and for overall safety. What do you do with your loved one with dementia when you have to go out of town?