My 83 year old mother has dementia, wears diapers, and is confined to a wheelchair. She's in a nursing home. Her quality of life is terrible for a once vibrant, proud, successful woman. She has an Advanced Directive and always told me she wouldn't want to continue living if she was ever in the state she currently is in. She now has pneumonia and the nursing home wants to give her antibiotics so she can be more comfortable. Will this cure the pneumonia and, if so, is that going against her wishes? I told the nursing home she wouldn't have wanted that but they said she would suffer severely if they didn't. I don't want her to suffer but I don't want her to be cured just so she can resume her tortuous existence. She's never going to get better...her present condition will just deteriorate. We don't let our animals endure this kind of suffering...why do we do this to our loved ones?
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