I have become my 84 year old mother's caregiver who has mid-stage dementia. She is now living with me, my husband and our teenage kids. She goes to adult day care during the week just long enough so I can go out to work. Once we are home, my mother's needs are consuming most of my time physically and mentally and as a result I am neglecting the rest of my family. The weekends are the hardest because I'm finding that a person with dementia needs a daily routine and to keep busy so their minds don't wander. Once my mother gets bored or the focus is taken off of her, she has a meltdown. I guess that is why she is doing so well in the Day Care Program. It is structured with lots of organized activities and people to keep her busy. I really need a facility that offers a weekend program designed much like the one she attends during the week. I have found absolutely nothing except home care agencies that can send an aid or companion to my home, which isn't my ideal scenario, but she will not sit with an aid anyway. She will have a tantrum and throw them out. I've also been told that they really won't do much with her anyway to keep her busy and sitting around for my mom, someone with dementia, is a recipe for disaster. I've called assisted living and nursing homes and even they seem to stop activities and programs for the weekend I guess with the thought that it allows families to visit with their loved ones there. For someone in my situation, being the sole caregiver and living with a family member with dementia, I feel a weekend program is a necessity at this point for me to be able to care for my mother at home while still having balance in my life to take care of and spend time with my children, husband and other family members. My mother is in the stage with her dementia that would benefit from being in assisted living or a nursing home type facility but I really want to keep her home with me, her family, for as long as I can. She cannot even sit and focus on TV and gets bored very easily and then starts to cry because she starts thinking and only remembers the past and wants her old life back or gets angry and demands to be taken home; a home she forgets she no longer has. The stress is starting to affect all of us and we're feeling like prisoners. I would appreciate any help with resources and recommendations for facilities or suggestions and advice on how to request this need if there are no facilities providing this service.