We, my wife and I, are responsible for the care of my aged (86) Aunt who lives at home. We live out of state and visit once a month. She suffers from dementia which seems to cycle in intensity from day to day.
We have, on my aunt's behalf, contracted to a local home care company for 24x7 care and my Aunt has been getting care for the last year. We have recently added PT (physical therapy) 2-3X per week and we are finding the we are getting increased resistance from my aunt to: getting up and going to the bathroom every 2 hours (dealing with incontinence), doing her breathing exercises (to increase her O2), PT, going on local trips (once or twice a week), and other daily activity (showering, playing games, etc.).
We have tried, encouragement, distractions, directness, subterfuge, having visitors, ... Just looking for other's experiences and helpful thoughts. It gets to be difficult for the caregivers when we are requesting they get my Aunt to do things and she resists or refuses - they then give up. This doesn't sit well with us but we also understand the challenge of doing a job when "the client refuses care".
Anyway, Thanks for any thoughts you may have,