My brother is a doctor. He lost his license for 3 yrs. due to unethical actions while my Dad was dying. He is now a danger to my mom. What options do I have to help her? She has dementia and worships my brother. He and she hid my father's very legally drawn up Advanced Directive. My father suffered horribly for over 8 months and had requested no intubation. He had a DNR. My brother intubated him behind my back. I would have stopped it. My brother broke AMA Ethic 8.19 which forbids a doctor making decisions for or treating a family member except in an emergency. As I watched the poor decisions being made by my brother, was asked to stop him by his hospital, and was told an ethics committee was being formed, I understood why such an ethics violation is a felony in Georgia. In the end, the hospital located Dad's advanced directive. My father was mentally capable and assigned the health POA role to me. I was alone when he died. Now my mother is still struggling with a TBI that resulted when an umbrella pierced her neck and almost ripped off her head while she was on a windy beach 7 years ago. She is not taking care of herself, her house is dirty, she will not allow me to help because "i allowed my father to die" , and she is being treated by my brother for medical issues. The treatment is not appropriate. She fell recently, hit her head, appeared to have a broken arm, had sore ribs, and started with dizziness. He and she refused to obtain medical help. I would have. She has rages that are dangerous. My brother hates me because he blames me for the loss of his license. I am a retired special needs teacher after 35 years of working with students of normal intelligence who were very sick children. I could and did take care of many of my father's more simple medical needs. My mother does not like illness and would barely touch him after 63 years of marriage. My older sister died of an alcohol related illness three years ago.. Our small town is supportive of me, mother has gone against everything my father requested regarding family property and houses. I now have COPD due to constant pneumonia, I never smoked , and I have an immune disorder.I am disabled by the standards of the Social Security Office. I miss teaching. I was planning to teach until I was 65. I am 60. Each day is worse. Should I just give up, should I report this to elder care abuse, or does someone have a kinder suggestion? My father warned me it might be like this but asked me to take care of my mother. My mother's rages frighten me. She has a gun.