How and where do I report my 2 aunts for financially ruining my blind grandfather (91)?

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Though I must stay anonymous for the sake of my mom. 1 aunt has been his live in caregiver, for the last not quite 3yrs. She has admitted to having my grandfather cash in the remainder of his stocks, 10,000's of thousands of $, nearing 100,000. Though, claims it was for necessities. He was recently put into a nursing home, and his condo put up for sale. She also is his POA. There has been many other issues, but at this point our greatest concern is to get him from the nursing home hes in and get him an apt with home care services. Then for my other aunt. She has been "overseeing his bank account". Yet she has watched all of this money being spent claiming its it's his $. Several times I've tried to get any info pertaining to accounts, stocks, taxes... and only for the fact someone had dropped the ball or other illegal things were going on. Things that a granddaughter should never have to do. Certain things that should be his kids affairs. That is if they weren't robbing him. After approx 4-5yrs of suspicions by my side of the family, their misdoings are coming to light. Though, I've tried numerous times to get bank statements from my on aunt, and telling the other aunt, that her spending is way out of control and he will die broke. My grandmother passed this last February, God rest her soul, never did she speak a harsh word about anyone, though when she was disappointed with someone she didn't really ever have to say much, we just knew and were able to go to her and apologize and ask for advise. And the ones who didn't care weren't around much until after she died. My 'account' aunt has kept the bank account info from them for a good 5yrs. I've got no proof of her doing anything because she has kept it very well disguised. Once my grandparents condo went on the market these 2 aunts and their families went in and cleaned them out, while my grandfather sat in his rocker listening to them fight and blame each other, They left very little for my mom. In fact my grandfather calls them the greedy grabbers. My mom was informed there would be a date and time set up to go through things. My mom, my sister and myself were waiting for the meeting time. Truly, having possessions of my grandparents just doesn't mean a lot to us being that it's taken from where our family used to spend our holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, food, laughs, fun, games, and lots of love they made sure we all felt. All the things that made our family so special with traditions and memories. But no longer is my grandmother here for me to see the sadness whenever I would lose my cool complaining about my 2 aunts, 2 of her 3 daughters, doing such wrong to them. I have reported my suspicions several yrs back. Not knowing at that time, my 'account' aunts indiscretions. She would lead the band wagon on any/all of the families wrong doings, and then, she would put the brakes on. The social worker I was reporting to said that that aunt put a halt to everything. As time has passed it's more than obvious now what was transpiring.

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Forget it. Too late. Grandad will be taken care of. F he needs Medicaid, they will investigate what happened to his assets. Barring that, you have absolutely no legal standing. I say it's too late. Let it go.
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How very sad, but what prevents your mother from standing up to her sisters? Sounds like me she knows it won't make a difference. They are in the drivers seat with POA. Unfortunately, I would think, WITH OUT LEGAL PROOF OF "ELDER ABUSE" your hands are tied. We had a similar family issue and a social worker we discussed it with reported a family member to APS - (Adult Protective Services) for financial issues. APS came out to the house & interviewed the elder being abused. Abuse comes in many forms... Good luck!
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