My mother is 95 and in my care. She has begun to realize that her mental faculties are slipping badly, sometimes to the point of total confusion. When she speaks to her daughter and grandchildren over the phone and tries to tell them of her situation, they always seem to respond by telling her that they forget things too and what she is experiencing is normal. When I have tried to help my sister (who lives in another state and sees my Mother once a year for a few hours) understand her condition, there is more than a fair bit of denial going on and I think this is just a symptom of that denial. One grandchild went off on a tangent telling her about how her mother was getting so forgetful and then on to a story of a person they knew who was totally dependent on his son because of his dimentia, a situation that is very similar to my mother's. It totally diminishes what she is attempting to communicate and can only lead to a greater feeling of isolation. Here at home, we can handle it just fine because we operate together with her as a team and she knows that we all fill in the gaps for each other. I have asked my sister to do something that will help her more fully understand the condition and symptoms, whether it be joining a group, or even reading some books on the subject. It is doubtful that will happen. Short of getting them to understand, I am struggling with any specific advice I can give them on how to handle her comments when she tells them she is struggling with her memory and understanding.