I am almost 60 years old and have health problems of my own. My mother has been emotionally abusive to me and my sister all our lives. She never really took care of us but left it all to my grandparents. My aunts and cousins didn't help at all when we were younger, just stood by and watched. Now that my sister and I are distancing ourselves from her (after years of tolerating her abuse) she is turning to them for help. She is in her eighties but lives on her own and can take care of herself. But she has always been demanding of others and feels that she is entitled to be catered to from anyone around her--very selfish). Take me here, take me there, do this for me, do that for me, I'm so unlucky and you have so much more than me, no one cares about me, etc. and on and on and on.
A few years ago, I moved six states away to get away from her and it has been the best years of my life. I want nothing to do with her. I do keep in contact with her by phone and she is just as abusive as ever, but now it is more like spewing hatred about everyone and everything and just has a toxic, poisonous attitude.
Now the relatives are calling us and demanding we take care of her, and putting us on a guilt trip saying she is our responsibility, not theirs and blah blah blah, and enough for me to understand that they have the same attitude they have always had, even when we were kids. That they don't care how she treated me and my sister, that's also our problem, not theirs, and just deal with it.
I've stopped answering their calls. So now I just got a call from another one of my cousins who has threatened to put her on a plane and send her to my house. Honestly, I'm shaking in my boots. I'm scared he'll do it and then what? I'm stuck. I'm actually scared of her cause she has done things in the past to try and ruin me, like call me people and tell lies about me. Yes, it's that bad.....
Any advice would be appreciated.