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My Father was asked by his grand daughter if she & newly wed Husband could move in with him shortly after my Mom passed and my Dad was alone. He agree and gave them a deal telling them that they should save their money to get their own home. They said they were only staying two years. It's been 10 years and they have 3 children now and 4th on the way, The house is too small for this even though I converted my Fathers office into a bedroom for the two oldest children and boy and girl. My father's health is failing two heart attacks and bad hip and kidney. They just left on a multi-state 11 day vacation in a rent RV with a master bedroom that has a king size bed. They have already had 3 vacations that I know of this year. They do nothing to take care of the yard, or the house. The 3 times I've been down to check on my Dad, he stays in his room ( they got the master bedroom). The grand daughter mentioned earlier this year ( before she was pregnant) that the house was too small and they might be moving...but now there is no discussion...no timeline of moving out. I am concerned that he will just pass while they are out and about or with the children. They still have him babysit for hours at a time sometime a day or night and he can barely walk with a walker. What is something happened to Grandpa in front of the Children, they could help, an they'd be traumatized. My brother lives nearby and takes my dad to the hospital and doctor, and lunch once in a while, but stays out of the affairs generally and says nothing. I live out of state, but my Dad has asked me numerous times to live with him. What do I do, I don't want to be the bad guy.

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I guess I'll just keep visiting my dad till I can't, and whatever happens afterward stay out of it if I want my grandnieces and nephews to stay liking their great uncle. It took a lot of trips just for my niece to acknowledge who I was to her children, bad situation; I don't want to make it worse.
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If he has told your brother and you both this,, but doesn;t have the heart to tell them.. I think you are out of luck. They have a sweet deal and lifestyle, and they wont give it up easily. It is very hard to evict someone who lives with you, and after 10 years and a large family this may be awful. Good luck.
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The family member is the eldest daughter of my deceased brother and her family. I wasn't going live with them , my father wants them to move out, and me in, he has told both my brother and I this privately. I am the youngest son of the two surviving brothers, my living brother is the oldest and is married with a grown son. I am the only single son that can take care of things for my dad. My dad doesn't have the heart to press the issue because of the great grandchildren, but it obvious that they are just there to get free rent a promise of 2 years only and it's been 10 years. BTW I do not think they've saved a dime since they've lived there, expensive vacations, music lessons, private schools, etc. I guess I can just watch my father slowly be ignored as he becomes less and less mobile and interesting to them. Sad. It's about quality of life! My dad can't live with me as he can't travel (doctor's orders) and I live in another state, but I visit 2 to 3 times a year or when I can as I work full time. Oh the granddaughter doesn't work and is now rethinking home schooling the kid since she pregnant again. 
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Good luck getting them out of the house after 10 years, and I mean that sincerely. Is Bro the father of granddaughter? How are you going to manage to live with all these people? Can dad live with you? Still beggars the question of how to get them out, and dad would still be responsible for the house bills like property tax, utilities, etc. You are going to be the bad guy no matter what I am sure.
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