I have been the caregiver for my 96 year old mom in our home for 9 months now, She is in a wheelchair and can do some things, like wash her face, dry the dishes, fold laundry, with her hands, but I need to help lift her many times a day for potty breaks, etc. Since she has lived here, I am inwardly angry because she has a way of putting me down and when I try to explain how it makes me feel, she won't answer and just says she wants to leave. Anyway, the topic is my husband. He is retired and leaves a lot to help other older people and repair work they need on their homes, but forgets when I ask him to do something. Its almost like he's glad I've got something to do everyday so he can do what he wants and not feel guilty. I know its unrelieved stress on my part and even though I do try to get away an hour or so a day when I can, the responsibility still lies heavy on my shoulders when I get back. Does this happen to anyone else? Its getting so that even when we might be able to go alone, I don;t want to go with him - and that makes me feel very guilty too. Guilt is a terrible feeling and I want it gone in my life!