His mother has lived with him for 20 plus years and he is now doing in home caretaking. She is in good health for her age but suffering from some low level dementia. We have been together for 5 years. I have my own home and was a caretaker for my mother who passed away from cancer. I know the issues around caretaking. He lives about 1 mile from my home yet we never get to spend anytime together due to the caretaking he does for his mother. Her schedule is so erratic. She sleeps until four in the afternoon, insists that he make dinner for her at 9:00pm, says she cannot heat up her own food and insists he serves her. I am a retired nurse RN and suggested he prepare meals ahead of time once a week or make a healthy sandwhich, soup and bowl of fruit for an occasional dinner so we can have time together. She will not do it and insists he prepare all her meals.I thought I could handle this but it is working on my nerves. I am allowing her schedule to run my life. Please I do not want to seem selfish. I lost my 27 year old daughter 4 years ago from a drowning accident and have my own grief issues with this. I run a small ranch by myself and have had 2 heart attacks and recently a pacemaker implanted. I do not help with the care taking as she only wants her son to participate. I have pleaded to get away together for awhile but she refuses to have anyone stay with her other than her son. I need some professional suggestions. My life is being stunted. We don't go anywhere, see anyone..HELP!