My mother is diagnosed with alzheimers and lives with me. I hired a caregiver to stay and care for my mom while I'm at work, light housekeeping, laundry, changes sheets once weekly or as need for my mom, cook, take my mother to doctors appts. As needed. I have 2 dogs that need to be let out 2-3 times during the day and I have a fenced in yard. I have a vehicle which is provided for the caregiver to use for transportation. I also provide lunch at my home. I also have a housekeeper who comes and cleans the entire house biweekly.
My mother is left with some, not a lot of money in her wallet as I care for her finances. I needed surgery and was unable to return to work at this point. I noticed at one point my mother was being put down for a nap after breakfast and the caregiver was sitting in the recliner for a nap, my mother's naps have stopped since addressed, the housekeeping has not been getting done, nor the cooking. I have many appts. during the day and lots of paperwork to complete. The caregiver, even though residing a short distance away would come here to prepare her own breakfast and at times I have been left with no eggs for the weekend because she had eaten them all. I had 12 packs of coke in the garage. 2 a week would be gone. I don't drink them often and mom is a diabetic. I want water pushed. Although I like when my mom has gotten out of the house to socialize and go out to lunch, I come to realize my mother has been paying the bill for both lunches. I want my mother to go to the senior center for activities which she enjoys. It has not happened as of yet. The caregiver always hugs my mother and tells her she loves her. My mom always asks me if she has any mother in case they go anywhere. The caregiver mentioned me leaving some money in the house in case the car needed gas or they needed it for something. I fill up the car.
I believe I finally nipped the issue with the caregiver arguing her not agreeing with my mother being on a specific medication. Neither of us are doctors and the decision is for my brother and I to make. We do allow my mom's input when she is able.
When I spoke with her she said that at times she thought I believed she was my maid. I believe that was more of a manipulation tactic. She schedules appointments during her shift with little to no notice. I mentioned getting a 2nd caregiver in to split the time so I would always have coverage and they could work together. The caregiver became defensive. I was told I wouldn't find anyone to do what she does for what I pay her. I was told she doesnt sit down 15 minutes on certain days which I know not to be truthful. Trust me....She is paid very well and I have cameras in my home. My mother loves her and considers this caregiver a friend. Just curious what others thoughts are.