I have been caregiving for my grandma with dementia. She has been refusing to drink coffee or water lately because she is so embarrassed about having an accident. When I put any drink in front of her she always reminds me of her fear of an accident and will take the tiniest sips. She will refuse soup or fruit too because of the fear she will have diarrhea from it. She seems a little dehydrated from this and her skin gets very dry. She also gets constipated a lot because she refuses to eat any veggies. I try to downplay her embarrassment of an accident, telling her if she does have one, I will just clean it up and it won't be a big deal at all. She wears diapers and while she is incontinent, clean up is pretty easy, but she is just completely embarrassed about anything to do with that although she has needed caregiver assistance for years. Is there anything else I can do to get her over her fear or some water in her??