I helped my mother in her home for ten years. She has lived with me for 14 months. Main problem is mobility. I have four sibs but only one has really helped this past year. Now that sib is having marital problems and cannot help going forward. I have had to fight for financial, aides and respite. I tried to use an ALF for respite but she acted up so much at the interview-they declined to take her. She is alert and oriented but has always acted up to get her way. Now I am tired and supportive husband is over it. There is now a weak offer from another sib to take her for a week. I really am not a irresponsible person but everything is a fight. The sibs rarely call and didn't really bother with the holidays, so what do I really have to lose? Never thought I would be this way but feel kind of sick about the whole situation.