Dad has dementia. Mother has psychological issues that went unchecked for too long. I'm a working caregiver who was removed from ALL papers and accounts after explaining it was time to start looking into solutions for their longterm care needs.
The housekeeper is very helpful. And does check on them. She is not a legal immigrant however.
- She brings them food occassionally.
- She has taken them to the hospital.
That made me feel great until I realized Mother is overpaying this woman.
-- $100 a day or more, but later I was told $150 for four hours of work. And their home is SMALL.
-- I have tried to tell Mother to bring in someone who is qualified to care for dad's needs and costs less per hour.
-- As that's more visits per week for him and less work for him. And let the housekeeper clean the house.
-- I think it's great she has someone there to help, but I am seeing redflags.
I was told by someone in the eldercare industry that asking my mother to get a home for them - all - to move in -- is HIGHLY innappropriate. And now I'm the bad guy for trying to explain that I think she needs to be more careful.
Does any of this sound familiar? What do you tell them? I live out of town. Have my hands full with a child with autism. And she is so far gone mentally - it's just a matter of time before something happens. And I have no idea what to do.