My dad (79 years) suffers from Parkinson's with Lewy Body dementia.
He is still lucid and fairly cheerful on his good days and then is essentially the wonderful dad I knew and grew up with, just a bit older with some motor troubles. But other times, he gets confused and sometimes agitated (the agitation is more at night, and more recent), and it's awful to watch. What bothers me the most is that I don't know how to connect with or help him during those times.
He lives with my mom, and she often is still able to take care of him, but it's becoming too much and my brothers and I (who live elsewhere) would like to give her back some of her time and balance while still giving my dad the care and attention he needs and deserves. He can still have conversations with people (quieter environments are best) and I'd really like to allow him to keep using that part of his faculties in addition to the more purely health-related assistance he may need.
We don't want to move him to a facility, but I don't know enough about the available options. People have mentioned a home health aide / nurse, and/or adult day care to get him out of the house. I want to make sure that he's not just sitting in a room with no one to engage him, but I also think he would need somewhere more specialized than one of the "social" adult day care centers I know some of my friend's parents and grandparents have been sent to. I'm also open to other options.
They live in downtown Boston, MA. Any insights or recommendations are very welcome! Thank you for your time.