I wonder if her doctors understand what the court looks at. I don't think doctors really know much about that sometimes. I would consult with an attorney to see what the court needs as evidence. If her doctor is advising her to go, that counts. I'd take the word of an experienced attorney over a doctor who may not have ever been to a competency hearing.
My cousin's doctor was very clear that since she could not handle her medications, she was not able to live alone. And if she can't do that, then what if she leaves the stove on or forgets to pay her light bill? I'd take notes about why she can't run her own household, handle her medical needs and use proper judgment regarding her heath and welfare. Poor judgment is often looked at as much as poor memory. Maybe, more so.
Is your mom still in Independent Living? I think I might check on AL or a medication aid instead of a dispenser. With the dementia, short term memory is dicey. From the time the reminder goes off, the person may forget what to do in those few seconds before they can get it done.. I recall how my cousin would forget what she was doing as she made a sandwich. She would see the mayo, but just be able to remember what to do with it.
Time to move her to Assisted Living and have someone else handle the meds. If you don't believe me, ask her doctor. We tried all kinds of dispensers with mom and she just didn't get it.
My mom has thus far refused AL against doctor's orders. Doctor feels a judge would not declare her incompetent. HOWEVER, our family has all agreed we must move her there and SOON. AL is extremely expensive -- like $6K a month. Money will soon run out. It is a horrible dilemma. thank you all for your comments.
My cousin's doctor was very clear that since she could not handle her medications, she was not able to live alone. And if she can't do that, then what if she leaves the stove on or forgets to pay her light bill? I'd take notes about why she can't run her own household, handle her medical needs and use proper judgment regarding her heath and welfare. Poor judgment is often looked at as much as poor memory. Maybe, more so.