My two sisters and I live in different states from her and don't know what to do for her. She is 79, and was totally dependant on her husband. We are taking turns staying with her, but this is not a permanent solution. She will not admit that she drinks too much. She wants to get her drivers license renewed and we are terrified she might pass the test. we have talked to her opthamologist and internist without success. they just want to pass the problem to us. what do we do. we are afraid to leave her alone.