My mother was diagnosed a year ago with PD. Since that time she has steadily gotten worse. She is VERY stubborn, hardheaded and gets around like a 60 yr old. She still wants to run things like she did when she was 60. She can no longer handle her finances. She can not do much of anything as she gets distracted, or forgets what she was doing. Can not take care of my father, who also has dementia, 5 yrs ago diagnosed. And he also has CHF. She can't do medications straight, so I am doing that now. I live there 5 days a week and my daughter is there watching her the remainder of the time. My other 2 sisters are also involved 1 handling the finances. She has had fires on the stove, walks away from the stove forgetting food is cooking. Demands that she can drive, after the neurologist told her no more driving unless a daughter goes with her.
Problem is, she is telling everyone that her kids are trying to take her independence away from her. She doesn't like anyone in her house telling her what to do. We are there to watch her only. We have tried to reason with her, bu that is like talking to a blank wall. Is there anyway to get thru to her as to why we are there and why she shouldn't be doing things she wants to do?? She always says that she thinks she has the mental capacity to do these things, even though we have explained a milliion times why we are there and why we are doing the things we are doing. We haave told her about the near misses while driving and she says all her friends are still driving and she is a much better driver than them. When we told her of the fires she has had on the stove, she says she has always done that. She makes an excuse for everything that has gone wrong. Can someone please tell me how I can get thru to her. She has 3 of her kids helping her out and 1 granddaughter. She has all of us CRAZY. We don't want to hurt her feelings, but being nice has not gotten us anywhere. She is getting just plain mean. Can anyone help??