I had been looking for work and my brother was paying for home care, As we all know, the expense of that is great. I volunteered to stay with her to help with the finances and now I find myself not being able to find a job, holding on to my home and having to pay bills from my savings. The financial situation is becoming dire. As a family, we do not want to put my parent in a nursing home but I need money coming in. I have spoken with my brother about paying me which would be MUCH less than sitters but he would have to pay me a salary to include taxes which would add up to about 50,000 per year in order to cover my expenses. I could sell my house or sell mother's house and bring her to live with me. However, my house has stairs and is not really conducive to the elderly. I am just going crazy trying to figure out what is best for mother and myself since I am nowhere near retirement. I would be so grateful if someone who is in the same or similar position could advise me how to sort this out. Common sense tells me one thing but my heart tells me another.