Question of legal guardian role.

I am the POA. I am not the guardian but I have the facility pushing me to do so. He is not the ideal resident by any means and has caused them headaches on the regular. My gut feeling is they are pushing guardianship because they want him gone. As in, after I am his guardian, nothing stops them from saying he's abusive. So I am wondering if I legally have to take him in such a situation? He pulls stunts. His last Dr appointment, he refused to get back on the medical bus to return to his facility. When I was called I said I couldn't drop everything to come and they eventually convinced him to return. But if I had been his guardian, could I have legally refused as I did? I'm scared of this guardian stuff. I am 55 years old and he has only been in my life the last 5. I am trying to do right by him because I guess it's weirdly somehow my place, but I can't make any moves where I'm actually stuck with him myself. That might sound heartless, but I own it.

No, but you are obligated to cooperate in a change of residence for this person, who is unable to do this for themselves. So it is time to seek other placement. Unfortunately, medications may be needed and a higer level of care for certain. You are operating as guardian. That means you are responsible for handling this entire situation.

I think it is overall a problem in that people so often take on guardianship for an uncooperative and unpleasant elder, not knowing that they are on the hook for everything now, from placement to bills to record keeping. What a terrible task to take on. If you cannot handle it do consider going to an attorney, attempting to have guardianship given up and place the elder in the hands of the state who will appoint a fiduciary guardian. You can plead ill health, incompetency for the task, or any and all excuses you can think of. I sure would!

You tell them that it would be an unsafe discharge and that you are not able to provide physical care for her. You can look up the term for guardian in your state. It usually means that you make decisions for the person. You should be the person who proactively searches for a new place or psychiatric care. They cannot kick the parent out until a place is found. Can you call for a planning meeting with the facility to look at options? If the parent is acting out, why are they not sending the person to the ER or at least contacting you during the crisis.
It also does not always mean that you handle financials. Who is the POA or appointed conservator? You most likely had to get a lawyer to become guardian.

I think they Need to give you time to find another facility . I would ask to speak with the social worker who works there or the Head person who runs the Place . Otherwise report the threat to medicare and let them know you are reporting them to Medicare .