My mother is in re-hab now for a complete hip replacement. She can stay there for up to 100 days. She has dimentia and aphasia, and is considered "total care". She can do nothing for hereself anymore. The problem is she has just enough of her mind to know she does not want to go to a nursing home. She always tells me she wants to go home (she was living in her own home with a 6 hour shift of caregiving and the rest, me caregiving. I ca't do it anymore, it's just WAY too much! It would almost be easier if her mind was gone totally, but she still knows, she wants to be home with her "own people" taking care of her. How do others out there deal with this?