We finally decided that Mom needs advanced care. However, my dad is feeling too guilty to sign the papers himself and is considering having the state or some agency check her into the home. Is that possible? If so, who do we contact? Mom is still aware enough of her surroundings that she gets suspicious of what is going on, knows her surroundings, what people are doing but her self care is so bad and she refuses to cooperate with us despite us pleading and telling her that her lack of self-care will land her in a home. So how do we go about this now? Is there a way to get her into a home without her pinning the blame on any one of the family members?