Should I put my mom on my lease?

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I just recently moved my mother in with me. She was in an extremely neglectful situation. Since I'm new to all of this I don't know all the ins and outs. If I put her on my lease would I be able to get her Medicaid for Adult Day Care? They want me to gather up all of her expenses. I'm also trying to get my dad's benefits for her he is a veteran. Is there any programs out there that would be able to also pay me for helping? I'm currently working barely part-time because I need to take care of her right now. Thank all of you in advance.

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When my mom came to live with me, due to her income, I was able to get a scholarship for day care and it was significant. Many county programs also have discounts for seniors. I don't think putting her on the lease will help. Most programs look at the person's income and assets.

I don't know much about Medicaid, but an elder care attorney can give you advice on that. If you want to be paid; an attorney told me that a caregiving agreement will have to be put together. Medicaid does a five year look back, and without the caregiving agreement, it can be considered a gift, which Medicaid looks down on. As for VA benefits - it is very time consuming (took us 9 months) and you have to be incurring the charges when you apply.

You may want to consider hiring a geriatric care manager to help you in this transition. They have resources and guidance to help you. There is so much to know and learn; please take all the help you can get. Also look for classes that are offered to help caregivers. That was very beneficial for me.
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Go to Medicaid.gov for your state and investigate this question.
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Find out if your mom could/can pay 1/2 of rent, utilities, food - this will help financial position quite a bit - she is now your room-mate so should pay what a friend would if they moved in with you - remember that is from day 1 so go back to when she moved in & get that money

If you feel bad about it, remember she would not get that care anywhere else for that price - some other revenues of help might kick in then so this will probably be a good benefit her
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Medicaid is based on income not expenses. In some states there is a program called In Home Supportive Services (IHSS) that is also based on income. It can pay family members to care for their loved ones. Contact your local health and human services department about these programs. Also you local area board on aging (maybe state board ). Will be able to direct you.
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Also, sometimes the leaser just needs a copy of an identification, i.e. DL, ID Card with picture, for additional occupant that is living there temporarily, so they know there is more than just you living there. As for gaining financial support as well, which is your main question, that is always hard and takes time to determine what can be added to the budget. Consider determining your annual budget requirements, income, debt assessment, and consider that even a financial adviser may be able to provide support in regard to at least going to a social security office or Medicaid office. Addressing this issue in person is recommended.

The other thing that may be relevant is: once the lease is signed, the terms are just that and are a contract, as stated on lease. That should be considered as well. For example, what if you both have to leave early due to issue, what is the backup plan for that as well. But sounds like you are already asking great questions and well on your way to figuring it out. Good luck!
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I'm not sure how putting your mom on your lease has any bearing on Medicaid. Have they given you any indication they won't "accept" that she's paying a portion of the rent otherwise (as a legitimate expense)? I haven't had to delve into what sounds like a horrible process, but just because she's not on your lease doesn't mean she doesn't have living expenses. Perhaps producing information of what your rent is (per your signed lease) & that she pays half will suffice - the argument being that as much as you would love to cover hers & your expenses, you can't. This leaves them to choose if they'd prefer to cover 100% of her care/housing or they can accept that you are splitting living expenses with her. Not knowing your mom's financial situation (assets, savings, etc.) - if she doesn't qualify for Medicaid, I found my mom qualified for sort of a stepped down version that subsidizes MOST of what she needs as far as day care, home delivered meals, limited respite...Is your dad living with you too? Sounds like you are embarking on a couple of complicated roads applying for various benefits...But as said above, even if you find you may be compensated for caring for them...It won't be enough to make a dent in what you're up against.
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Your local veterans service agency can help you apply for Aid and Attendance benefits on behalf of your mother. Also, service officers of the American Legion and Veterans of Foreign Wars can assist. As was noted here, don't have your mother put on your lease because it would make her liable for some of the rent.

The Veterans Omnibus Health Services Act of 2010 allows VA to provide benefits to eligible Caregivers (a parent, spouse, child, step-family member, extended family member, or an individual who lives with the Veteran, but is not a family member) who support the Veterans.
VA Family Caregiver Program | Military.com
www.military.com/benefits/veterans-health-care/new-va-family-caregiver-program.htm

You might want to consult an attorney who specializes in elder affairs about your obtaining guardianship of your mother. That's what I had to do. If you become her guardian you will be responsible for keeping accurate records of expenditures.

Your mother is lucky to have you looking after her.
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Cross, since your Mom is an adult, the Landlord would request that a credit back ground check be done to see if your Mom has the ability to pay the rent should something happen to you. Since your Mom has Alzheimer's/Dementia [per your profile] would she understand the Lease as she would need to sign? In any effect, you need to let your Landlord know your Mom is now living with you.

As for you being paid being the caregiver, please note a vast majority of adult children are not paid unless the parent can pay from their own retirement fund.

There is also another option, Medicaid might be able to pay you, but that would depend if your State has that program. The pay would be quite minimal.
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