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It sounds like your mother-in-law needs some medication that can help with her mood swings. Also, your caregivers shouldn't have to drive her, if she's that unpredictable. Your caregivers shouldn't have to drive her to appointments, there must be a 'cab-u-lance' sort of service in your area. I'm so sorry. I think you should have called in Hospice long ago. Call them now. Do it. If she's dying, they can help you. DO IT.
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Pack her up and send to a nursing home and get hospice involved. Tell your wife that you won't be going with her to visit her mom as she clearly ruffles your feathers. How can you provide comfort when you clearly have such disdain? Forgive your MIL. Such hostility only hurts you. And is destroying your marriage.
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if u are waiting for ppl to answer possts..tht u already took care of it then.
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Mom called us twice to say she was "in agony". Both times we called 911 instead of going there and she ended up in the ER and got big bills to pay. That ended the dramatic phone calls. It's called Tough Love for the Elderly.
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why should u all have to take care of her mental disease...if u want to continue with
this then u have to take responsiblitiy for it instead of writing about it.
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OK.. I must have missed something between the lines of reading this post! This woman is 95 and is dying of CHF and has artortc stenosis. Yet she has the stamina to still live at home with some supervision from a caregiver? However, she has psychotic episodes where she is physically harming or threatening to harm herself or has harmed another person? In my opinion this has already gone on to long. It's just a matter of time before some gets seriously hurt. Your partner needs to take aggressive action NOW before its to late!
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THIS IS A SITUATION THAT DEFINITELY NEEDS PROFESSIONAL HELP. DON'T FEEL GUILTY. SHE IS NOT DOING HERSELF OR ANYONE ELSE ANY GOOD.
MY 89 YEAR OLD HUSBAND IS SENILE , CAN'T REMEMBER ANY NEW INFORMATION AND CAN REALLY GET GRUMPY ABOUT IT BUT IF HE WAS VIOLENT IN ANYWAY, HE WOULD FIND HIMSELF IN A MENTAL HOSPITAL. LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO LET SOMEONE MAKE YOUR LIFE MIISSERABLE.
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Get this woman out of your home and into a facility asap. If anyone tried to grab the wheel of a vehicle in motion that I was operating , I probably would have decked her myself. Like the others posters have stated, she is extremely dangerous as indicated by the volatile and unpredictable behavior she exhibits. Best of luck to you.
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She physically assaulted the caregiver? Why didn't the woman call the police?
If she's been violent with someone, she needs to be placed in a setting where her behaviors can be dealt with (like a dementia unit if you can find one that will accept her). She's dangerous to live with. What if she picks up a knife the next time she lashes out at her caregivers??
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Nursing home, period.
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The disorder prevents people feeling 'empathy' towards other people, or guilt for offences.
Psychopaths don't suffer from delusions, though, and many are highly adept at 'pretending' to think in the same way as normal people.
New research has uncovered that manipulative, callous and sometimes violent behaviour could actually be hard-wired into psychopaths from birth. Maybe your husband needs to take a step back for a bit because she is truly manipulating you both. Maybe if you both didn't come running everytime she decides to do this, she just may get it. Have you considered putting her into a facility where they can better handle these outbursts with her. Sounds like one on one is just too much. Her getting all wound up like this can't be good for her CHF either. I hope it helps good luck.
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I have been in the same situation as your partner so I know how demeaning it feels. I was actually scared of the situation, not my MIL. If I had ever snapped and taken just one swing, I would be in jail for life right now. Dementia is really a terrible disease and that is exactly what that sounds like to me. My MIL passef a couple of weeks ago and there has been a major calming in my home. It sounds to me like your MIL needs to be placed in a facility instead of at home and you and your partner need to ignore the drama she produces. 'The little boy who cried wolf' all the time didn't get the help he nedef when the wolf did show up so give her the same medicine. I know it can be tough to hear something like that but in my situation, my MIL was living with us. Before she passed, I felt a 'spirit' which was her trying to make amends with me before she died by about 4 hrs. I did not accept it, rather I pushed it away. Even to this day, about a month later, I am still bitter for what she did and cannot forgive her. I'll probably take that to the grave. Before anyone gets to the same point that I'm in, serious changes need to be made or the same thing will happen.
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It sounds like time to put mil in hospice care if she is indeed close to death. What in the world did she do to a caregiver to have her taken away in an ambulance? For someone who is terrorizing so many she is mighty active for someone who is dying as you say.
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