My father (87) was recently diagnosed with Esophogal cancer and has asked to pursue palliative care rather than surgery or chemo. I speak to him regularly but he is very discreet about his own situation. The woman from the firm that holds his POA and manages his care contacted me today with the following request:
"He is working with his attorney preparing some legal documents and needs some information. Are you able to provide the following?
Your full name
Your date of birth
Your Social Security Number"
I wanted to check first before handing over this information. I contacted my father and he confirmed that he was in touch with his attorney for his will. I contacted his attorney by email asking if I there was a time that I could speak directly to provide this information, rather than email.
The attorney responded "I can understand your wariness when asked to provide personal information. It’s unfortunate that we are living in a world where such caution is advisable." And the attorney included a detailed explanation about the POA person that made the request to me as well as a copy of the current will, testifying to that person's character, then stated "Please let me know if this addresses your concerns."
However, the attorney did not explain what my SS# and birthdate was needed for and did not provide any suggested times that I could be in touch.
Should I continue to insist on a direct contact?