My grandmother turns 101 in November. She is living unassisted in a Level A facility. She does fairly well physically, although she is having more and more falls. My mom and I decided to move her to a facility that has round the clock care, and she will be sharing a room. My gran is extremely suspicious and paranoid, and we are dreading the move. She is quite far along in terms of dementia but has plenty of lucid moments. My mom is 75, and truly at the farthest point of caregiver burnout. I truly worry about my mom's health more than my grandmother, although both of them keep me up at night worrying. I live 2,000 miles away and have two kids in school, so I can't be there all the time.
Any tips for making this move a little easier on both? The new facility said they would move her, and we should check back in a week, but we feel that will be so traumatizing. Imagine strangers swooping in and removing you from your home with no warning, demented or not.
Thanks in advance for any advice!