I do not want to deal with her directly because she is toxic and abusive. She is very demanding spending over $1000 a month on alternative medicine and over $2000 a month on food. She is 85 and threatens to take her life if I will not give her the money she asks for. I have to take her frantic calls on a weekly basis demanding more money. Is there a way that a governmental agency or non profit could look out for her care and find what her actual needs are. Though she was an abusive parent I feel responsible to look out for needs. I have the money to help but I do not want to feel black mailed or abused in the process.