How do you verify the quality of care you give? I was accused of elder abuse last February (actually the day after my birthday) by someone Id asked to look after mom in by absence for one afternoon. Social worker came, interviewed me and mom, checked our situation and found the accusation to be "unfounded". However, this person accused me of financially abusing my mother, which the social worker explained was a criminal matter that would be followed up on by police. I tried to follow up myself, but was told by police that I would just have to wait until the detective got to my case. Before this, liability was nowhere on my mind. Now I see potential for accusation everywhere. Not the least of which is that my mom has dementia and I have to guide her through a lot at this point when it comes to dealing with any administrative stuff. We did POA, a year and a half ago now, she was much more lucid then and we did it with a notary. I've been caring for mom for 10 years and getting the POA was a long neglected task that folk had been after me to get done, as well as an advanced directive. She doesn't have any assets or property, with the exemption of a piece of inherited land that is on oil lease in Texas, producing on average $200 in income quarterly. All our income is my just above minimum wage (through In Home Support) pay, her SS and non court-ordered child support my kid's dad gives dutifully every month. We are hand to mouth (rent, food, gas, car insurance, my cell phone, utilities) very,very little disposable income. I don't keep a record, budget etc. but my guess is that my bank statement tells the story of our income and my expenditures pretty directly. Lately she is concerned/ anxious/complaining, that she has no money, that I don't give her money. I feel like this could easily be translated into some kind of notion that i'm "taking her money". I dunno. All Im doing is struggling to get by on whatever we get (yes we Iive together), and I never thought it was a violation to pool our monies. With her fading memory, increasing confusion I dunno what she might feel at whatever point. She also often tells me "you really don't want to be bothered with me, you're always angry at me, I don't like the way you treat me", if she sees my frustration or I get impatient etc. I could see this translating into my mistreating her and i dunno how to protect myself. Of late, she also tells me daily how much she appreciates me, how sweet I am to take care of her, and the like, very sweet and helpful. It's only me taking care of her, very few visitors except my boyfriend. I feel like I have no witnesses to what I do and don't do to vouch for me. The idea of her in a facility is really unbearable for me, unless it's end of life hospice care. Im in for the duration, but really want to feel like I can protect myself successfully from liability.