I care for my 90 year old father and my siblings are accusing me of neglect and abuse. My family and I have shared a house with my father for over 37 years. My siblings visit infrequently and in the last 3 years my father's health has deteriorated. Stroke, diabetes, partial hip replacement, pacemaker surgery, gangrene and depression, over the last 3 months he has refused to seek medical help and has all but stopped eating. Short of force feeding him and physically caring him to the hospital I haven't been able to get him any help.
I've spoken to advice nurses and his primary doctor all saying that if he doesn't want medical help then there is nothing I can do. But now I'm being told that I have to make him go to the doctor and make him eat because I'm legally responsible. My father makes all his own decisions, no one has power of attorney and my siblings are blaming me for my father's failing health. I finally convinced my father to seek medical help and he was admitted with pneumonia and my siblings reported me to APS, the case was closed because there was no evidence of abuse or neglect; then my siblings reported me to the hospital. No matter what I do I'm being blamed and harassed by my siblings yet they won't take responsibility for my father. I need to find help, because I'm afraid that the situation with my siblings will only get worse, I don't know what to do.