I'm not even sure if I asked this question already but I am so drained and hurt by my mother's accusations towards me. She is saying she is going to tell her doctor that I abuse her and in reality it's always been the other way around mom never liked her kids. I was the one to get the brunt of it she would pull my hair as a child and drag me across the floor saying how much she wished I was dead and I was 4 or 5 at the time. You see she has always been this way. She plays the victim roll very well and is trying to get me into trouble no one and I mean no one in the family will help out with her she is a big ball of negativity! I myself suffer from depression, anxiety and physical just lower back that is and could only do so much . How do I protect myself from her manipulating doctors? Well not all doctors fall for it but my mom is determined to be a victim but yet get her home and she is her true self !!
Listen, Elder care is difficult enough as is, so to throw in decades of abuse offered at the hands of the elder, I'd say there's some physiological damage going on in this elder & care-giver scenario ... i.e. damage example; martyrdom; meaning, perhaps you just need to hear how brave etc strangers might think you are from time to time, yet reality is you have no plans to change your situation. (Seems this forum has many of those types... so, nothing more to say than, good luck.